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Monday, October 26, 2009

Ms Jean

Have you ever helped someone only to find out that they helped you more than you helped them? Well, that was the case with Ms.Jean. I was hired to sit and aide my cousins mother in law who was in the last stages of cancer. Hospise came everyday to give me instructions to better care for her and what to relay to her husband . Her husband wanted so badly to stay @ home with her,but had to work. I ask her husband why the curtains were closed making the room dark and depressing. He informed me that it was her idea and that she wanted nothing to do with the outside world. So that day I ask her what I could do to make her want to look out of her window. She thought about it and finally said,"A humming bird feeder." I rushed to the phone and called her husband to tell him about the humming bird feeder. The next morning as I reached over to open the curtian  she began fussing at me. As soon as the humming  bird feeder was in sight she became silent for a moment. With tears in her eyes she said,"Thank you." I told her that it wasn't me,it was her husband that did it. "Oh,I love that man"  she said wiping away her tears. My next mission was to get her out of that room. I ask her a few days later if I could take her to the other room. Without hesitation she said,"Ok ,but while I'm out of this bed I might as well get my hair cut." I was so excited that went to the phone to make arrangements right away. A few days later her pain became so unbareable that her husband  and I could no longer get her to eat anything. I had to do something to get her to eat. I showed up one morning with cooking magazines. I turned her tv on and tuned it to the cooking channel. I talked about food all day long. Toward the end of the day i ask her what her favorite meal was. She licked her lips and said,"fried shrimp,hush puppies,fried catfish,and french bread." I bet you can guess what she and her husband ate for dinner that night. Now she didn't eat much,but she ate. About a week later I ask Ms.Jean if there were any movies she would like to see. She thought about it all day and finally said,"E.T.". So that night she enjoyed watching E.T.. Not long after that she passed on. I miss her,but I'm thankful for the time I spent with her. She taught me so much. Thanks Ms.Jean.


RNSANE said...

What a lovely story. I think you made the end of Miss Jean's life special by your intuitiveness and caring. I have been a nurse for almost forty-five years and it always does my heart good to come across special people like you who have the good of patients at heart, going above and beyond the call of duty.